change

Change: 1 a : to make different in some particular : alter b : to make radically different : transform c : to give a different position, course, or direction to; change, alter, vary, modify mean to make or become different. change implies making either an essential difference often amounting to a loss of original identity or a substitution of one thing for another . alter implies a difference in some particular respect without suggesting loss of identity . vary stresses a breaking away from sameness, duplication, or exact repetition . modify suggests a difference that limits, restricts, or adapts to a new purpose

change.

what's you're definition?

ask me that question 2 years ago and i would have replied, "sometimes a rather necessary thing that occurs once in a blue moon."

ask me now?..you probably don't want to hear my answer.

does change make you stronger?

or do we just get to the point where we put a wall where nothing can inhibit our sense of self even when the world is constantly changing around us?

if someone had the answer to this question that plagues my heart...well let's just say it would be even more than fulfilling.

find the beauty

she told me to go look outside, even though it appears gloomy, find the beauty in it..then tell her.

"the trees that are now dead bring hope for spring and new life. that not all is lost"

one of my biggest problems is that whenever i become happy it suddenly is taken from me..either that or i dont know how to hold onto it.

i need to keep my life in perspective. even though ive lost a relationship i still have so much. not all is lost. even though i dont have a father, i still have loved ones. i may have hard things in my life but that does not dictate who i am and where i am going.

my heart is really hurting but i just needed to let it out.

Hoping

I have a lot to be thankful for. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my job at the bank. I cannot explain how much it adds to my self-esteem working a real job.

I'm really hoping to move out soon. I will be a lot happier if i do. My mom says I have to pay her on monday or i have to leave and give her my car keys. I have to go to court on Tuesday and possibly serve my dad..meaning i have to sue him. I'm so anxious that i woke up in the middle of the night this past week with hives all over my body.

So here's where I have to have hope. I hope that I will be able to figure out a situation for monday thats better than whats presented to me. Im hoping to find a place to live for cheap and maybe a car. I try not to think about it because when i do i feel my heart start racing and my anxiety kicks into high gear.

I'm hoping for a Christmas miracle. I'm desperate.

Deliver Me

Deliver me, out of my sadness.
Deliver me, from all of the madness.
Deliver me, courage to guide me.
Deliver me, strength from inside me.

All of my life I've been in hiding.
Wishing there was someone just like you.
Now that you're here, now that I've found you, I know that you're the one to pull me through.

Deliver me, loving and caring.
Deliver me, giving and sharing.
Deliver me, the cross that I'm bearing.

All of my life I was in hiding.
Wishing there was someone just like you.
Now that you're here, now that I've found you,I know that you're the one to pull me through.

Deliver me, Deliver me, Oh deliver me.

All of my life I was in hiding.
Wishing there was someone just like you.
Now that you're here, now that I've found you,I know that you're the one to pull me through.

Deliver me,Oh deliver me.
Won't you deliver me.

this is the cry of my heart. At this moment i am sitting here trying to push the dream from last night far from my mind. struggling to keep my head up and finding strength to smile rather than cry.

oh please..

Matchstick Girl

For several days now I have this inexplanable feeling. I dont quite know to describe it.

I struggle with depression daily and anxiety. It's just something i've come to accept. However, lately i've been feeling so incredibly alone. It's coming on Christmas..the year is almost over. Yes, the year is almost over. One would expect a sigh of relief but rather for me it's more of a trailing of sentence. Is it really? I've been high and so low that i've scraped the grime off of hell's floor with my fingernails. I hear this often, "when things are going terrible in your life it only means something wonderful is around the corner." Really? So because my father left and treats me as if i were dead that means something wonderful is going to happen to me? Because my home life is up you know what creek without a paddle means i should expect something great?

I feel that we are so caught up in "catchy" phrases that we miss out on the truth that is life. Bad things happen to good and bad people. Why? I dont know. I used to say "everything happens for a reason". I was one of those super-optimistic-to the point of insanity people, and then i got hit with reality. Yes, i believe some things happen for a reason but most things happen just because. Find a reason or lesson in it if you will. I'm sure that if you look for it you will find one, but im too exhausted for such nonsense anymore.

I dont believe in a lot of things that i used to. I dont believe that people are truthful and can be honest. I dont believe that someone can truly love me for me. I dont believe people will stay. But I do believe in hope. For heaven's sake it's the only thing i got left and its very little but its still something. I honestly believe that if i didnt have this little hope i would die from a broken heart. I've heard of it happening but never understood how that could be until now. I am slowing dying of a broken heart. But there is something in me that won't let me.

There was a story i read a long time ago around this time of year, it was called The Matchstick Girl. The story begins with a little orphan girl with nothing but a ratted old dress and matchsticks sitting in the corner of two brick buildings on a cold december night in the snow. Desperate for heat she lights the first match. It seems that each match is a wish from her heart. With the light of the first match she sees a huge christmas feast. She feels the warmth of the food within her until the match goes out. She lights the second to see a home lighted by a fire and a family inside smiling and laughing. Because she longs so much to hold onto this wish she lights the rest of the matches and for an instant feels happy. The story ends with the little matchstick girl sitting all alone in the snow frozen to death with a smile on her face.

That's me. For a moment something within lights up and i can feel the warmth and then the cold harshness of the things i cannot control in my life snuff it away.

This will be my first christmas without my dad. And as far as im concernced my first without my mother as well. My christmas wish this year is for a family. Maybe that means a family of my own someday that i will love unconditionally, or maybe for a family to just love me...

It's during this season of hope and joy that i feel empty and long for what used to be and what will someday be.

Thanksgiving

It's thanksgiving and i'd like to sit here and think about what im thankful for.

Life, that things aren't always what they seem, being healthy, opportunities, my 3 good girlfriends, my sister, my boyfriend, music..

Anyway, i have to come to a point where i just dont care anymore. People are so whiny and bitchy and i am tired of it. I have had enough of materialistic bs and people's petty problems. I dont want to hear it anymore. Tired. Done. I've got REAL issues in my life but I still smile and honestly bottle it up inside so nobody really knows whats going on.

Grow up people. Stop being so freaking selfish. Vanity is not something to be proud of.

unwanted

your sad eyes they dont keep me alive
not like they used to
not like they used to
and your cold feet they wont find their way to me
it's not like you want them to
it's not like you want them to
and your big heart, it won't tear me apart
not like it used to
not like it used to
its all about
it's all about
It's all about
it''s all about
what you wanted
am i what you wanted?

your cold hands, are they gonna catch me if you can?
its not like you want them to
its not like you want them toa
nd your long legs, they could carry you to me
its not like you want them to
its not like you want th
its all about
its all about
its all about
its all aboutwhat you wanted
am i what you wanted?
It's all about you
It's all about you
It's always about you
It's always about you
Its all about
It's all about
What you wanted
am i what you wanted?
oh, my love